How To Stay Happy When You Feel Lonely

7 steps that are useful in combating loneliness

1. Get involved in activities that you truly enjoy.

You don’t have to join a group to meet other people. For instance, if you enjoy traveling, you will likely cross paths with other people along the way who share your love for seeing new places.

On your bike route, you will probably meet someone else who also cycles along the same path.

More so, maybe you can make this person your biking buddy. Or, you might find a new workout buddy at the gym.


2. Ask yourself if your feelings actually represent reality or not.

Has it been a while since you last saw your friends? Should you call your family to check in with them? Or, maybe you need to do some self-reflecting and spend some time alone for a while, just reconnecting with yourself.

3. Get to know yourself better.

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” – Wayne Dyer

In all honesty, you must learn to enjoy your own company before you can truly appreciate the company of others. Otherwise, you will only want to connect with other people out of desperation in an attempt to escape from yourself. You have to go deep within and break all the chains that bind you so that you can finally leave behind any emotional trauma from the past.

4. Talk to someone new when you’re out and about.

How many times do you notice people’s heads in their phones when you go out in public nowadays? Maybe you have fallen into this habit as well, so try to put away your phone for a change and go up to someone new. Strike up a conversation with the girl at the grocery store check-out, or the person waiting at the bus stop, or the jogger at the running trail that you frequent.

You have a chance to connect with someone pretty much anywhere you go; we have a world occupied by more people than ever before, so really, we all don’t have much of an excuse for feeling lonely. It just takes reaching out to someone and not limiting ourselves to our current reality.

5. Spend less time on technology, and more time in the real world.

We can instantly connect with almost anyone online, but it just doesn’t compare with face-to-face human connection. We can’t hug someone online, or see the change in their facial expressions, or feel the energy of the person through the computer or phone. Try to limit your technology use to a few hours a day if you can. If you try this, you will find that you have much more time to bond with your current friends and even make connections with new ones.

If you don’t know where to start, first think about the businesses or parks you frequent. You likely talk to the same people at the places you go most often, so why not try to cultivate a friendship with them?

6. Focus your attention on helping others instead of focusing it on your own feelings.

Volunteering makes a great way to both connect with other people, and also take the focus off of yourself. Think about how many people live on the streets everyday with virtually no source of consistent food or water. They have no safe place to lay their head at night, and no real friendships to support them.

So many people suffer much more than we could ever imagine and we can all do something to help them. By helping others, you will in turn help yourself.

Also, look for local charities or soup kitchens to volunteer your time at. This will instantly make you forget about any loneliness you may have felt before. You should also reconnect yourself to one of the basic foundations of human existence and helping one another.

7. Reach out to others, and join groups with similar interests as yours.

In order to overcome loneliness, you need to feel a common bond with others. How do you go about doing this? Well, the easiest way is to research local meet-ups and groups that you have an interest in joining. If you look around, you will find out that other people long to connect, just as much as you do. More so, don’t hesitate to reach out to them.

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Oluseyi Adefowora

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